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arielarenaWe often say or do things without realizing it. Our actions can sometimes hurt the people around us yet we don't notice-- or try not to notice. It is some weird thing about humans, that we can be so oblivious yet observant simultaneously.
And why do we compete about everything? Looks, work, school, how crap our lives are, etc. I know it happens, I've participated in it, though lately I've tried keeping my mouth shut and just observing.
Someone complains about how horrible things are in their life and then others join in, they commiserate, which is fine, but it sometimes reaches a point where it becomes a game. I don't get it. Do we have some urge to prove ourselves as the lesser person?
I essentially left a conversation because the two main participants began talking about something I could not relate to (and wouldn't want to, particularly). I felt weird, like I should pipe in and talk about the same thing but pertaining to my life. Like for some reason by telling my story I'd be, somehow, proving myself. But proving what, exactly? Hell if I know.
When bringing up this topic with![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
lautman (where he nicely let me do most, if not all, of the talking), I was reminded of Monty Python's "Four Yorkshiremen" skit (script and to hear the skit). I'd played a Yorkshirwoman in an adaptation of the skit years before. It seems to be a perfect, yet dramatised, example of what I'm attempting to describe.
I don't like it, but it happens. I'll probably succumb to whatever it is in my nature that makes me want to participate in these conversations. I just wonder how we got here?
Before I stop this not-so little...thought?...I want to clear something up. When reading this, one may think, "But I go to you to rant..." or "But I do something like that".
Firstly, I said that from observations, it seems like almost everyone (if not everyone) does this. I do it without realizing. Does this make me think any less of people? NO!!! I love you all! No one is perfect. I'm just questioning this particular flaw.
Secondly, I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm just getting thoughts out. This has bothered me for a bit and just talking about it with my mother and whomever else I may have mentioned it to hasn't been enough. I needed to get this all out.
Thirdly, I'm being general on purpose-- this has nothing to do with specific people...it is an overall observation (and not based on hard research or anything so don't go thinking I assume I'm right. I know perfectly well that my logic is flawed and that I could be wrong).
Fourthly, I have nothing against ranting. Let it out, guys! It's good for ya. Really. If you want to rant to me, go ahead. My email is: adrirena@gmail.com if you do not see me on a daily basis. I'm all for letting out feelings. And if you feel comfortable coming to me, well, then I'm flattered and willing to help in any way I can. Ya'll have every right to complain and whatnot.
I love you all!
Adri
P.S. Don't get too mad at me. They are just half-thought out opinions. Plus, I'm crap at having people angry with me. *hug*
And why do we compete about everything? Looks, work, school, how crap our lives are, etc. I know it happens, I've participated in it, though lately I've tried keeping my mouth shut and just observing.
Someone complains about how horrible things are in their life and then others join in, they commiserate, which is fine, but it sometimes reaches a point where it becomes a game. I don't get it. Do we have some urge to prove ourselves as the lesser person?
I essentially left a conversation because the two main participants began talking about something I could not relate to (and wouldn't want to, particularly). I felt weird, like I should pipe in and talk about the same thing but pertaining to my life. Like for some reason by telling my story I'd be, somehow, proving myself. But proving what, exactly? Hell if I know.
When bringing up this topic with
lautman (where he nicely let me do most, if not all, of the talking), I was reminded of Monty Python's "Four Yorkshiremen" skit (script and to hear the skit). I'd played a Yorkshirwoman in an adaptation of the skit years before. It seems to be a perfect, yet dramatised, example of what I'm attempting to describe. I don't like it, but it happens. I'll probably succumb to whatever it is in my nature that makes me want to participate in these conversations. I just wonder how we got here?
Before I stop this not-so little...thought?...I want to clear something up. When reading this, one may think, "But I go to you to rant..." or "But I do something like that".
Firstly, I said that from observations, it seems like almost everyone (if not everyone) does this. I do it without realizing. Does this make me think any less of people? NO!!! I love you all! No one is perfect. I'm just questioning this particular flaw.
Secondly, I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm just getting thoughts out. This has bothered me for a bit and just talking about it with my mother and whomever else I may have mentioned it to hasn't been enough. I needed to get this all out.
Thirdly, I'm being general on purpose-- this has nothing to do with specific people...it is an overall observation (and not based on hard research or anything so don't go thinking I assume I'm right. I know perfectly well that my logic is flawed and that I could be wrong).
Fourthly, I have nothing against ranting. Let it out, guys! It's good for ya. Really. If you want to rant to me, go ahead. My email is: adrirena@gmail.com if you do not see me on a daily basis. I'm all for letting out feelings. And if you feel comfortable coming to me, well, then I'm flattered and willing to help in any way I can. Ya'll have every right to complain and whatnot.
I love you all!
Adri
P.S. Don't get too mad at me. They are just half-thought out opinions. Plus, I'm crap at having people angry with me. *hug*
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Date: 2005-02-10 06:57 pm (UTC)I dont know. I think this quote pretty much sums it up...
"At first Ford had formed a theory to account for this strange behavior. If human beings don't keep exercising their lips, he thought, their mouths probably seize up."
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Date: 2005-02-10 07:03 pm (UTC)*hugs Mishy* I'm very glad that you gave blood. I'm quite content to be underage to do so right now seeing as I'm feart of needles. So, very good for you!!!
Adri
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Date: 2005-02-10 07:06 pm (UTC)Much Lurve,
~*~Jenners~*~